Do you often feel lost and distressed? Do you often let other people use and abuse your kindness? Or do you simply feel that all the negativity around you is sucking your soul dry? Well, maybe that’s because you have a low EQ.
Emotional Quotient (EQ) also known as Emotional Intelligence (EI) is a person’s ability to understand how their own emotions affect the decisions they make which in turn affects how they live and feel about their life. Having a healthy EQ is about developing a growth mindset and not allowing internal or external factors to affect how you respond to situations or people.
In order to develop a strong EQ you need to understand how your emotions work.
Emotions are controlled by the amygdala in the brain. The amygdala is the size of an almond, yet it greatly influences every aspect of your life. When you are born, your amygdala is fully developed. It is the reason why children have so many emotions all together at the same time and no control over their behavior. This is why it is important to teach children how to understand and deal with their emotions. This action could result in a decrease in the number of adults who are depressed, with no sense of self or their purpose in life.
As an adult, life becomes more challenging and the life you dreamt of may sometimes seem to be drifting further and further away. You can combat this by developing a healthy EQ.
Start by using positive affirmations such as “I love myself”; “I am worthy” and “I believe in myself”.
Now, at first you might feel uneasy about using positive affirmations but that’s because our brains have been trained to internalise only the bad and negative things.
Positive affirmations will help you build confidence in yourself. By positively affirming yourself often, you will start noticing how much less the negative things or people around you will affect you.
Take it one day at a time and use positive affirmations in situations that are challenging to you and remember to observe how your behaviour and mind-set has changed compared to when you never used them.
Here’s a challenge… Every day recite an affirmation that means something to you. And every time you find yourself having to deal with a challenging situation or person, utter those affirmations in your head or aloud (they’re yours).